8 Texting Rules You Should Know – Better Yet, Do!

By Chet Gladkowski

There are many common misconceptions, things that people think or assume are true. Here are four familiar ones.

  • Fortune Cookies come from China.
  • Microwaves cook from the inside out.
  • The Polka is a Polish style of music and dance.
  • There are no rules for texting.

All four are wrong.

  • Fortune Cookies were invented in Japan during the 19th century.
  • Microwaves only penetrate 3⁄8 of an inch, it cooks from the outside-in.
  • Polkas originated around 1800 in Czechoslovakia, which is now the Czech Republic.
  • Yes, there are some good rules of the digital highway for texting.

Here are my favorite, elite 8 rules for texting.

Rule 1 – Emojis

Like salt, sprinkle them, but consider the context. I wouldn’t use a kiss emoji to small group leaders. But a single smiley face or heart can let someone know your message is lighthearted.

Rule 2 – Punctuation

Texts don’t need to pass spelling or grammar checking. Don’t overuse question marks or exclamation points. Don’t end your text with a period, you’re better off using no punctuation at all.

Rule 3 – Fewer Messages

The worst thing

Is when

You send

16 texts

In 30 seconds

Even reading this is annoying, wasn’t it? Everyone will thank you.

Rule 4 – Fewer Words

Related to Rule 3, use as few words as possible, but be certain to keep the message intact. Try 5 words instead of 7.

Rule 5 – Abbreviations

Whether you use initialisms, abbreviations, acronyms, slang, or insider lingo, be sure your audience doesn’t feel left out. Help them to feel part of the team, being “in the know.”

Rule 6 – Capitalization

NO ONE WANTS A TEXT LIKE THIS. All caps just raise everyone’s stress levels. You can always say what you need to say with lowercase.

Rule 7 – Laughter Level

Are you “haha-ing” too much? Some people use LOL at the end of every sentence like punctuation. Some laughter is good and helpful. Too much and you’ll lose people left and right.

Rule 8 – Broken Links

In the immortal words of Charlie Brown, “AAUGH!” This is my personal pet peeve. When someone sends a hyperlink that doesn’t work, it screams that they think so little of people not to check it before hitting send. Please, please, please, check that your links work.

Text messaging can be very helpful in communicating and building community.

Use it well. Use it wisely. Use it effectively


Chet Gladkowski is the Founder of GLAD Associates, Inc. (a) and author of “Have Yourself a Merry COVID-Christmas”(b). He has also launched National Day of Hope(c).

(a) https://chetglad.org/

(b) https://www.amazon.com/Have-Yourself-Merry-COVID-Christmas/dp/B08J1WLXNS

(c) https://www.nationaldayofhope.net/

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